tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38778068137677577302024-03-13T10:06:55.392-07:00PILLOW TALKS WITH PRIZEMy name is Prize Abimbola Onoja. I love God, family, music and just being happy. This blog is just an avenue to share some of my personal lessons and experiences and also encourage someone out there. I look forward to sharing some life changing words with you.PILLOW TALKS WITH PRIZEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12487319593776824265noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3877806813767757730.post-85035990808431690182020-08-31T01:08:00.000-07:002020-08-31T01:08:06.075-07:00<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1PUM-MLtI0qZ90y8h2vMfxN_yr7fWJRclBpYBbt00_s67mO6fktGLGxeqGttt6tQIcz-Coz9BsTr2SfIpwXXMOnVx2Ud_n2SN58jKerUfTIsmMMYFx2ntLgZAspPXbpK67fwhHTmqFTd2/s2048/JVW_4182.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1367" data-original-width="2048" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1PUM-MLtI0qZ90y8h2vMfxN_yr7fWJRclBpYBbt00_s67mO6fktGLGxeqGttt6tQIcz-Coz9BsTr2SfIpwXXMOnVx2Ud_n2SN58jKerUfTIsmMMYFx2ntLgZAspPXbpK67fwhHTmqFTd2/s640/JVW_4182.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>EPISODE 3 – KNOWING HOW
TO PURSUE. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">In our
previous episode, I addressed the ladies on how to become pursuable. In this
episode, I will be addressing the men. I am specifically talking to the good
guys and the laid-back guys, the play boys don’t need my advice except to
change their filthy ways. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">So, let’s
get right into it. So many good guys find themselves single for so long but the
play boys are always so forward and quick to take attention away from the good
and laid-back guys. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Here are
some tips on how to pursue a good woman; <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">BE COURAGEOUS – When you see a girl
who you like, don't be timid, go and say hello. Forget about if she would look
down on you or if she would be sassy, the real question should be what if she
becomes a really great friend? What if she ends up being my wife? Do not
approach her like someone who is unsure of himself. Say hi to her, give her a
compliment and spark off a conversation. Here is the best way to look at it, it’s
either you allow the fear of rejection eat away at you and paralyze you, or you
tell yourself the worst thing that can happen is she would ignore me and tell
me no. getting rejected is part of life, but that should not stop you from
putting yourself out there. I once heard someone say “the patient dog eats the
fattest bone”, then someone else replied “yes but not in a hundred-meter race”.
It is good to be patient, but it is also good to go for what you want in good
time, because if you don't, the play boy would be there to take her attention,
waste her time and leave her sad and dejected. So good guy your courage is also
another way of saving someone from potential heart break. Sometimes your
courage would earn you a wife, or a friend. Being timid is an unattractive
trait and it makes you look as if you are unsure of yourself. You have a lot to
offer but you are second guessing yourself, meanwhile the play boy has so much
confidence and all he has to offer is heart break. The play boy has so much
confidence, and that confidence makes him appear as if he knows what he wants
and can handle being with a woman. The funny thing is women keep falling for
the playboy repeatedly because he is confident. So good guys, if no one has
told you, take it from me you are the real deal and the right woman will
appreciate you. Do not be scared to put yourself out there even if your heart
has been broken in the past.<o:p></o:p></span></li></ol><!--[if !supportLists]--><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">This issue
of courage is one that cannot be over emphasized, for those who have no idea
what courage is, it is the strategy marketers use to convince you to purchase a
product, they put their best foot forward. Imagine a marketer approaching you
and sounding like they mistakenly appeared in front of you and do not know what
to say. You would become irritated. Play boys invest a lot of time in their
game and how to walk up to a girl, and what to say to her. Their work usually
pays off in the short run, the good guys leave things to chance and end up
pissing girls off. Do not be too humble, look straight at her when you are
talking to her, think of conversation starters and try to carry the
conversation, crack some jokes if you can. The first step is to make her
curious about you. This would mean she has picked interest and would be happy
to talk some more and get to know you better. You can be reserved and
courageous, you do not have to change into someone you are not. My husband is
generally an introvert, and we were friends for a while, I knew he was a good
guy, but he was always confident and courageous. After being distant friends
for some years, our friendship changed in 2014, we became closer and it was
kind of obvious we were beginning to like each other, I kept waiting for him to
ask me out officially but he didn’t. You know good guys always try not to be
too forward, so one day I told him I was at the mall and someone tried to ask
me out and I really did not know how to reply. I knew we liked each other but
nothing was defined and I did not want to assume anything and get my heart
broken, so I asked him what should my response be if I find myself in such a
situation again? I cannot remember exactly what he said but it was now clear
that I was his girlfriend and he was, my boyfriend. The reason I was patient
enough to do this was because we were friends for a long time and when we
became closer, I realized he was my ideal man, in fact I nick named him “Mr.
too good to be true” because I had no Idea such a man could exist. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">So, I would
tell the good guys to be confident and do not wait till the girl is tired.
Shoot your shot, stop allowing the play boys mess things up. And ladies, for
those of you who have been hurt, stop going back to the same type of guys who
hurt you. Sweet words are just that, a man’s actions should be more important
than whatever comes out of his mouth. So, if you meet a good guy and for some
unspoken reason he is being shy or overly patient, help him out. Do not ask him
out, but ask him about the situation and let him respond. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>All in all, courage is not the absence of
fear, but it is forging ahead despite being afraid of the uncertain outcome. Now
that you have the courage to talk to her, you need to make sure you come
correct. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">HOW TO PACKAGE YOURSELF – Just like
I told the ladies in the previous episode, it is also important for the man to
look his best. Some good guys are clueless about what suits them and how to
look nice. The truth is some people are not just blessed with dress sense, but
the good thing is you should be willing to learn. If you even find a girl who
is patient enough to teach you, be humble enough to learn. <o:p></o:p></span></li></ol><!--[if !supportLists]--><p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p> </o:p></span>Comb your hair, brush your teeth, iron your clothes, have some decent
shoes, use deodorant. It is a terrible thing for your breath to stink. I know
this guy with really bad breath and I keep wondering, why has his family
members and very close friends not told him? I have thought about telling him
many times but I just try to stay a bit far when we talk. If you notice that
girls are running away from you, please investigate yourself, find out if it’s a
character flaw, or if it’s a hygiene flaw. You should always be willing to
improve yourself even when you finally get married, do not just relax and turn
into the fat potbellied man. Do all you can to remain sweet and fresh for your
woman.</p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">ARE YOU A LEADER? – Just because you
are a decent man does not make you a good leader. I have come across selfish
guys who believe that men are more important than women in a relationship. They
believe it all starts and ends with her in a kitchen and taking care of him and
his children. The leadership role is something so many men do not understand,
they believe it is a tool to lord over women. But to be a true leader is to
serve, and to serve in many different capacities. Since I am a Christian, I
will use some biblical examples. Jesus had so many disciples but he chose to be
the one to wash their feet, and when it came down to it, he died for our sins.
A lot of men do not realize the severity and seriousness of the role that has
been placed upon them. If you believe leading a woman and a family is a small
job, you are completely clueless. <o:p></o:p></span></li></ol><!--[if !supportLists]--><p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><o:p> </o:p>Leadership means sacrifice and putting others first. I used to wish I
was a man till my eyes were opened to what it really means to be a man. If I
place someone in charge and say “lead these people”, if something goes wrong, I
will hold the leader accountable. That is the same with God, if a man does not
live up to the leadership role God has placed him in, he will have to give
account. The truth is I cannot teach you how to be a great leader in just one
post, so what I would do is give you pointers on where to look. First of all, I
implore you to look into the bible and see what God expects of you as a man.
Look for exemplary men and ask them questions on how their journey has been and
what you should work on. As a leader, be willing to learn and unlearn, be
honest about your weaknesses and strive to improve on them. Never forget that
being the one God placed as the head comes with a lot more responsibilities so
do not let God down, do not let yourself down, and do not let your followers
down.</p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">ARE YOU READY TO LOVE? – A lot of
guys do not really understand the true meaning of love. They just work with
their feelings. But the truth is love is a deliberate decision to give and keep
on giving. The bible says for God so loved the world that he gave his only
begotten son. He gave the most important thing to him. But most times the love
we claim to have is a very selfish one. So, I will recommend 1 Corinthians 13
at this juncture. Before you tell a woman you love her, give yourself this litmus
test, replace the love in 1 Corinthians 13 with your name and ask yourself if
you can do all that for the woman. Can you suffer long for her? would you be
patient with her? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>will you be willing to
forgive and keep no record of wrong? When people talk about love, they approach
it mostly from the part that deals with attraction. But the truth is you can
become attracted to many people, you can have chemistry with many people. But
love is serious work and requires sacrifice and commitment. There would be
times where you are not happy with your spouse, times when you do not feel like
being in love but you still have to show love and give your best. <o:p></o:p></span></li></ol><!--[if !supportLists]--><p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If you know that you are not ready to love, simply maintain a platonic
friendship, the world is a difficult place so try not to make it worse by
breaking someone’s heart. If you know you are not ready, do not rush into a
relationship as t</span>here is nothing wrong with being friends. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">5)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">WHAT ARE YOU BRINGING TO THE TABLE? –
I ask this because some guys are serious liabilities. If you get involved with
them, your life would be difficult. I am not saying you need to get married to
a millionaire but the man should understand what his responsibilities are.
Before you go professing love, make sure you are ready to shoulder
responsibilities. Do you have a source of income? Can you provide for a family?
Are you willing to work or is your philosophy “God will provide” while you
relax? Some men are even comfortable doing nothing but spending what the woman
makes, some even target girls from rich homes so they do not have to work. <o:p></o:p></span></li></ol><!--[if !supportLists]--><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If you want
to get married, you need to be prepared for it. Whether we like it or not, finance
is very important in a relationship. Some men have more money than others. For
those who do not have so much, proper planning would help you a lot. If you
plan properly, you will achieve a lot. And then you can keep striving for more
money. </span><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">You also
need to bring maturity to the relationship. You need to be willing to let go of
childish and petty habits to have a successful relationship. You must be
willing to bring Trust and faithfulness to the table, you cannot expect what
you are not willing to give. If you want a faithful wife or girlfriend, also
bring those qualities. You must also be willing to bring respect commitment and
love to the table, do not treat her anyhow you like. You must be willing to
lead as I have stated earlier. If you do not have anything to offer, please
leave the girl alone. I have seen useless guys asking for what they cannot
offer. This life is give and take. Any quality you hope for in a partner, it is
only fair that you also bring those traits forward. I have seen unfaithful men
look for good women to marry, I have seen lazy men look for hard working women
to marry, I have seen dishonest people say they want an honest person. All
these things I am saying also applies to the women. You find lazy women looking
for rich men to cater to them and sponsor their extravagant life style, dishonest
ladies wanting honest men etc.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Fit and
proper men (women) who genuinely have a lot to bring to the table also need to
be careful because they will attract both good and bad women (men). You will have
to observe people patiently and make a wise decision. If you have all these
qualities, please do not waste time on ladies who do not understand the value
of these qualities. For some ladies, all that matters to them is money, money, money!
It is when they get married that their eyes will be open, that is when they
would be wishing for faithfulness, commitment, asking him to be more present
and involved etc. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It would be really
foolish of you to be talking of marriage when you are not bringing anything to
the table. Even if she marries you by some miracle, in the marriage she will
start demanding for more. So, if you do not have anything to bring to the
table, keep working on yourself and developing yourself. Become the person you
would be attracted to if you were a lady. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">6)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">ASK GOD FOR DIRECTION – At every
stage of your life you need God. How can you truly know what is in the heart of
others? A woman can pretend to be what you are looking for (vice versa). You
need to pray and tell God to reveal the heart of this person to you so that you
can make an informed decision. You may make mistakes, you may even get your
heart broken, but with God on your side, you will eventually end up with the
best partner. <o:p></o:p></span></li></ol><!--[if !supportLists]--><p></p>PILLOW TALKS WITH PRIZEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12487319593776824265noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3877806813767757730.post-87214351794472819712020-08-17T15:32:00.000-07:002020-08-17T15:32:06.693-07:00 MR OR MRS ROMANTIC??? EPISODE 2<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNrVutceZrdOohEQ5e6CBW5KxOj6S84z9hvc0DVgvMq-wvDnM40trB0j18LN81BW4druoySg-QRsuARJUf0-FMQlkohsxwtWwS5Lk6MfOCE0h_cB_51QViatpMnW74U3Ct_FlKLHzStF3i/s2048/JVW_4182.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1367" data-original-width="2048" height="267" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNrVutceZrdOohEQ5e6CBW5KxOj6S84z9hvc0DVgvMq-wvDnM40trB0j18LN81BW4druoySg-QRsuARJUf0-FMQlkohsxwtWwS5Lk6MfOCE0h_cB_51QViatpMnW74U3Ct_FlKLHzStF3i/w400-h267/JVW_4182.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p></p><div style="text-align: left; text-indent: -18pt;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1)<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; line-height: normal;"><b> </b></span></span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">5) Mouth odor- I spoke about looking
good and smelling good. Some ladies are not conscious of their breath and this
can be a turn off. Bad breath is not limited to just the odour that comes out
of your mouth in this context. It also includes the type of things you say. The
average man loves to be respected, if you treat a man with respect, he
naturally becomes attracted to you. If a man feels like he is being
disrespected the attraction is lost. This one is actually a very difficult one
because we women are quick to snap sometimes, but to be attractive we have to
master the act of being respectful. I struggled with this one also but
eventually I learned that I do not have to feel like being respectful to give
respect. I am in control of my feelings. I got so good at keeping quiet when I
am upset that it became a problem. I am now learning how to communicate when I
feel disrespected without losing my temper or being disrespectful in the
process. My dear sisters no be small work oh but it is worth it.<br /> <o:p></o:p></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p> <br /></o:p></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">6)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Have a life- I have noticed that men
in our generation are attracted to women who are not too needy. When you are
too clingy and overly needy a man would become weary of you. Do not pretend to
be busy just because you want to get his attention that would not last. Do not
dump and abandon your friends and your life just because you are in love. Have
a full life, read books, watch movies, go out with your friends, do not be
readily available. If the man realizes that the only thing you have going is
him that can become a burden to him. Be loving and sweet<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>but have a life. I remember telling my
husband before we got married, I can live without you oh, but I choose not to.
I have never believed those people who profess love by saying I can’t live
without you, that is a blatant lie if you ask me. I remember how fast my ex
moved on after me, it made me realize that people can live without each other.
Sometimes a relationship may not work out and if that was the only thing you
had going on, it would be terrible. So while you work on attracting the right
man, also keep working on developing yourself. An intelligent, hardworking and
diligent woman is a very attractive woman. After a while, even men who want a
woman who they can lord over start complaining about her being always home and
readily available.<br /> <o:p></o:p></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p> <br /></o:p></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">7)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Be confident- Confidence is such an
attractive trait. Do not be arrogant or rude but just know that you are enough.
Yes keep working on yourself and becoming the best version of you that you can
be. But also do not be intimidated by others and what they have. The truth is
in life we all have something unique to bring to the table. You may not have
the best figure, but you may have the cutest face, or the best intellect, or
the ability to manage situations well. Remember not to down play yourself.
People will treat you the way you treat yourself. Be comfortable in your own
skin. I have seen people compare their weaknesses to other peoples strengths. This
is not good because you would end up feeling inadequate. I have friends who are
extremely intelligent but are not good at maybe singing or dancing. When they
see me dancing I expect them to clear the way and allow me show myself, and
when I see them thriving in the academic field I should cheer them up. My late
sister was super gifted in school and for a very long time I felt inadequate
because people kept comparing me to her. It was not like I wasn’t smart, I just
did not like school and I was always too restless to sit in one spot studying
for hours. I preferred things like dancing, acting, speaking and the likes. When
I realized that I needed better grades, I went to her for help and my grades
improved seriously. I never really got the grades she got but I did better. And
my confidence in my intellect improved. Do not look down on yourself, keep
working on yourself and remember that there are certain talents and strengths
that are exclusive to you.<br /> <o:p></o:p></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p> <br /></o:p></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">8)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Always be ready- This is the last
point. You never know who you will run into so always put your best foot
forward. My single ladies, please capitalize on these tips. Do not forget that
there is nothing wrong with approaching a guy and being friendly, just don’t be
too obvious, let him pick up the signal. If you start becoming so close and he
is not still saying anything, you can politely ask what he wants out of the
friendship so you do not give yourself false hopes. With these tips, I believe
you can pursue a man till he catches you *wink*. With these traits you would
actually become very attractive and all sorts of guys may come your way, bring
out your sieve and politely turn down those you cannot work with. Even as a
married woman you have to remain pursuable to your husband. You do this by
flexing your feminine muscle and then you set off the man’s mumu button and
then you leave him to finish off the chase by catching you. He would end up
feeling like he came after you but deep down, you know you gave him the green
light. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This method that I am giving you
is the one Ruth in the bible used to bag Boaz, it is also the same trick Esther
used to get the king. The good news is that every woman has that feminine
quality that is God given, she just needs to learn how to use it the right way.
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I have also heard ladies saying men do not like to come out and ask a woman out any more.</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFzfT2qeMka66j6_UU4jlwNKmlK_80FPoTr5x4A4QABc4sOrdym6ODjBcEDEWkXSB4ZHt9Yn9Z5itoXoryg42K7oPv21ioEx_zmzPld97ny1HbiMvfYXGuxjS51k6jHeEfXzJ3GPWfM-3r/s2048/JVW_4182.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1367" data-original-width="2048" height="267" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFzfT2qeMka66j6_UU4jlwNKmlK_80FPoTr5x4A4QABc4sOrdym6ODjBcEDEWkXSB4ZHt9Yn9Z5itoXoryg42K7oPv21ioEx_zmzPld97ny1HbiMvfYXGuxjS51k6jHeEfXzJ3GPWfM-3r/w400-h267/JVW_4182.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span><p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;">I am of the opinion that a man should pursue a woman, but I also believe women should make themselves pursuable and keep themselves pursuable. I believe a man should ask a woman out and pursue her, but the truth is from what I have noticed, most of the really good and faithful men in my opinion are not as romantic as the play boys. This is not to say that every man that is romantic is a play boy. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is romance that is genuine and there is romance that is targeted at exploiting a woman.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"> </span></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;">Most women are drawn to what they hear and so a lot of times, they fall for the play boy just to realize that sweet words sometimes are just that. It sometimes takes getting your heart broken <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>to realize that romance and sweet words Is not all that there is to life. So while I personally believe that a man should pursue a woman, I also believe that a woman must make herself pursuable and also reciprocate at the right time so that the love is mutual and has a fertile ground to grow.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"> </span></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;">I have seen so many amazing women stay single or end up in terrible relationships and I have seen really nice guys end up single longer than they want or even end up with a poor choice in a woman simply because they do not know what to look out for. Some of the men do not know how to be romantic and some of the women do not know how to make themselves pursuable. So to avoid making this post very long, I am going to turn this into a series where we can take it piece by piece so we do not miss out on any important details. It is my prayer that at the end of the series, a lot of amazing relationships would be formed and a lot of marriages would be revived. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"> </span></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>EPISODE 1 -<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>BECOMING PURSUABLE!<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;">Like I said in the introductory post, I have seen so many amazing women who keep getting bypassed by nice guys, and I have seen a lot of ladies falling for fake romance so I will dive right in on what I believe ladies need to do. You can actually start off the romance with the tips below.</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span></span></p><div style="text-indent: -18pt;"><span lang="" style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large; text-indent: -18pt;"> 1. </span><span lang="" style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large; text-indent: -18pt;">Be friendly- I believe so many women believe that a guy must come up to them and tell them that he likes them. Play boys are usually very bold and do not have a hard time approaching a woman. But most of the good guys are usually not that forward. So what I will tell ladies is that you need to be friendly. There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting a conversation. This is what I call lifting your antenna, if the gentle man is smart, he should pick up the signal and take it from there since you have made it easier for him. If he refuses to catch the signal please and please move on, you do not want to keep pursuing the man, if you pursue him and finally catch him, you may have to keep pursuing him forever. So be friendly, smile, be polite and respectful this method is tried and tested. I believe this is the first step in making yourself pursuable</span></div><div style="text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Always look and smell good- I have seen a lot of ladies who are clueless about this simple trick. They believe beauty is on the inside but they forget that men cannot read their hearts. A man does not look at you and see what is in your heart, he notices your appearance first. If you do not look inviting, he will not be invited. And if you manage to look decent and he comes close but you smell like sweat that may be a put off. Be you single or married, as a woman you need to know that you have to keep yourself looking good and smelling good. Do not forget that he is attracted first and foremost to your outward appearance. I Suggest that every woman invest in <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>a very nice perfume, deodorant and in making your skin look good. Use products that won’t damage the integrity of your natural skin but would give you a natural glow.<br /><o:p></o:p></span></span><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"> <br /></span></o:p></span><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">know what style suits you - I understand that some women are naturally stylish and know how to make themselves look good, but I have also seen ladies who do not know what suits them and end up dressing poorly. A lot of very spiritual women don’t have style. I do not understand it. And sometimes married women just forget themselves after having children. For the unmarried women who do not know how to style themselves, look around for a lady who always gets admired and ask for tips. Go online and do some research about what type of clothes suits women with your figure. The fact that you love Jesus and are super dedicated to him would not make you attractive, you need to work on your appearance dear sister. I have heard of instances where the pastor bypassed all the sisters and went and married one hot Deborah who is on fire for God and is also stylish and attractive. Balance is key in life! Remember in the parable there were five wise virgins and five foolish ones, they were all virgins alright, but only five of them were wise. Know what hairstyles suits you and how to play to your strengths when it comes to your physique. Sometimes I get a little bit angry with women who refuse to up their style game. If you have any male friends, just check out who attracts them. Explore if you like makeup and if it suits you, remember that moderation is always key Use makeup but do not become too addicted to it so that you do not lose your confidence. There are women who look better with make up and there are those who do not need it, find out where you belong.<br /><o:p></o:p></span></span><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"> <br /></span></o:p></span><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4.<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Be classy- Classy women are women who know how to conduct themselves. They know how to act and are not rude. To be honest it took me getting corrected a lot to become classy and I am still working on being even more classy. I have seen women who are rude, I remember while I was still in secondary school, a lot of people told me I was rude and I did not believe it. So I started a personal survey asking people if they thought I was rude, I assured them they could be honest with me and I got very helpful feedback. Some people told me insulted people a whole lot when I am angry, some said I was always frowning and<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>very defensive and turned the most little thing into a fight, some told me I interrupt without listening. The truth is I did not like smiling because I felt I looked better when I frowned, I was gossiped about a lot so I was always ready to snap at people and sometimes the wrong people were snapped at. I insulted people when I was angry because I believed it would let them know I was not to be messed with. But I realized all these people could not be wrong, I had a sharp tongue and it needed adjustment. To be honest making changes took me time, help from family and friends, and eventually when I began to have my own relationship with God. I had to be broken and remolded. One thing I have noticed is that most of the ladies who are not classy do not have an idea about it, and when they are told, they feel insulted and are not really willing to learn.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For those women who are like me with strong personalities it can be difficult learning to be classy and gentle. But I realized that this quality makes a woman very attractive. When you combine being classy and being friendly you would be so happy with the results. A classy woman does not look down on people, she is polite and if for some reason she realizes she has been rude, she goes back to apologize.<br /><o:p></o:p></span></span><span lang="" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p><span style="font-family: times; font-size: x-large;"> </span></o:p></span></div>PILLOW TALKS WITH PRIZEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12487319593776824265noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3877806813767757730.post-19872557440836721572018-05-24T06:17:00.001-07:002018-05-24T06:17:29.226-07:00ROSE OF SHARON: CHRONICLES OF A NEWWIFE ...<a href="http://prizearowolo.blogspot.com/2018/05/chronicles-of-newwife-eps-1-i.html?spref=bl">ROSE OF SHARON: <br />
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studying really hard for the bar final exams. George (my husband) told me he
would want us to get married in December 2017 when I would have been done with law
school. He wanted me to finish school before we dive into our marital journey.
And I made up my mind that I was not going to fail any exam. I did not want the
stress of exams and marital responsibilities colliding. So my social life was
almost nonexistent, social media life was almost gone too, I only had time to
post during holidays or whenever I just needed a break from my books. I could
not stay on the phone for too long. I did all this because I told myself I
would not come back for any re-sit exams. I also needed time to pray, so I apologized
to people before time because I had a target and I was not going to allow
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praying so much and also studying so much. And one day I asked myself, if I
have to put in this much work to pass an exam, how much work would I need to
put in to prepare for this marriage? I had read many books, I became friends
with married women who have been in this marriage business for so long and I
began to ask them questions. So many people go into marriage without a strategy
to win, they do not see the need to prepare for marriage the way they prepare
for exams and other projects. They assume love is all they need. They believe
that since they are both Christians or of the same religious background
everything will work out. They forget that the Devils own strategy and sole
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stages of my life, I used to get excited thinking about my wedding day and
marriage. But when I began to think deeply about how my life was about to
change, excitement turned into thoughts on how to make sure I succeed. I had a
plan in place to ensure I did not fail my academic exams, and I quickly
realized I also needed a plan to ensure that I do not fail at this institution
called marriage. I was waking up every night before my wedding to pray and my
mom and best friend joined me on most nights. I told God I did not want any
accident for those who would travel for the wedding, I told God I wanted his
power, his presence and his glory to be present on the wedding day, I prayed
even more for the marriage and asked for grace to be better than the woman in
proverbs 31, I asked for his beauty to surround me, I asked for wisdom to know
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to even be against us because I am a Pentecostal pastor's daughter and my then fiancé
turned husband is a serious Catholic (more like serious Christian. I usually
forget he is Catholic till someone brings it up or we have to go to church). I
remember people asking me what I was thinking and at some point I asked myself
if I could handle this challenge. One pastor even gave us his unsolicited
opinion that we are making a mistake and we just laughed. Apparently, someone
he knew married from outside their denomination and the marriage was a disaster.
But I knew he was talking out of ignorance because marriages have different
challenges, and people from the same denomination end up divorced or with bad
marriages, so that is not the real problem. Your marriage is not guaranteed
success based on the fact that you both attend a Pentecostal church, or Catholic
Church. The success of a marriage is derived from submitting to Gods will,
putting in the work required, understanding what you are about to step into,
understanding what God expects of you as a wife, mother and helpmeet. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your husband also needs to understand what his
role is as a husband, father and the leader of the home. So coming from the
same church is not a yardstick for a wonderful marriage. But most of us are
comfortable with what we are used to which is fine. But I personally was not
going to throw away the best man I have met in my entire life and the one who
God tailor made for me, just because he attends a different church. I knew my
journey would be different but not unsuccessful! I chose to listen to those who
were counseling, encouraging, and teaching us how to win, rather than those telling us we would fail. I focused on the beauty of what God is going
to use us to do in the body of Christ showing people that you should marry a person
who loves God and not necessarily the church they attend. The church is not really the
building but the people. And true Christians bear similar fruit so you may have
someone in the same church as you bearing different fruits. I knew God had
given us a different assignment and I was not going to run away from it just
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a talk with myself. What must I do to make sure I have a successful marriage? It
is wonderful to have all these degrees and excel at academic pursuits, but I
also know I do not want an average marriage, I want an excellent marriage. I do
not want a marriage where I have to just keep enduring, but a marriage that I
enjoy. This was one of my prayer points also, God bless me with a marriage I
enjoy not one I have to endure.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 14pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 14pt;">So right after my bar final exams, I made a
decision to go on a 90 days fast and I told George about it and he decided to
join me, we ended up fasting for 2 months instead of 3 months but I was happy
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communicate as we have always done, no keeping negative emotions in and acting
out at each other, and we make sure we remember our roles and do what we have to do to the
glory of God. So Just like I had a strategy to help me succeed at the Bar final
exams, I also told myself there is no room for failure in this marriage, so I
constantly look to the word of God, I pray over my home, I cook, I clean, I go
to work, I encourage my man, I try not to stay upset for too long, I believe
people who stay upset for too long are like those people who leave their garbage
indoors for so long and the whole place starts to stink, so forgiveness to me
is like taking out the garbage and breathing in fresh air. I do whatever I have
to do to make sure I win at this because God is counting on me, counting on us
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I am grateful for the man God has blessed me with, and I am looking forward to
making God proud and showing others that you can succeed at this whole marriage
thing if you make up your mind about it and enlist God for his help and grace. What
is your strategy to help you win in life? What strategy do you have in place to
help you have a heaven on earth marriage? Are you willing to put in the work?
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwVkBw-4Q_Q32Fs1ys-PVCwlIrTHtey25OWeGAiVNdDClvpOEhVT3_yRIQVodOPnZQk-DXwdcIgN9-MucyWaRc79e3GTOHaw1KNSemOBSbRCEytjjG9JoC2wrrhxTKEzRt6kv62hmkvRr-/s1600/break-up-sms.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="450" data-original-width="600" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwVkBw-4Q_Q32Fs1ys-PVCwlIrTHtey25OWeGAiVNdDClvpOEhVT3_yRIQVodOPnZQk-DXwdcIgN9-MucyWaRc79e3GTOHaw1KNSemOBSbRCEytjjG9JoC2wrrhxTKEzRt6kv62hmkvRr-/s320/break-up-sms.jpg" width="320" /></a><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">I know you are
wondering what I am thinking saying heart breaks are not that bad especially if
you are going through one right now. The truth is while you are going through a
heart break it can feel like the end of the world. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">But
in my experience, heart breaks are good. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">I remember my
first heart break and how terrible I felt, but the truth is if you deal with
the pain properly, you will grow past it. You must realize that if you do not
deal with the pain, you are likely to end up hurting someone else. Relationships
end for different reasons some of which include: cheating, lying, not knowing
why you are getting into the relationship or what you want out of it, realizing
you want something different or realizing your purpose for your lives do not
align. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">There
are so many reasons why people break up. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">But like I said
breaking off a relationship is not the end of the word. It is much better to
have a broken relationship or engagement than a broken marriage. So many people
stay in bad and toxic relationships hoping the person would change or improve
but my advice would be leave! You really do not want to gamble when it comes to
who to settle down with. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">I went through a
terrible breakup some years back and till tomorrow I will forever be grateful
to God for that failed relationship because it led me to where I needed to be. I
am one who celebrates heart breaks not because I love to see people sad, but
because I know if you handle it properly, you will be on your way to finding
someone much better especially if you follow Gods principles. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The truth is some people are not fortunate
enough to suffer the heart break while they are still dating, they get into
marriage and are stuck in a bad marriage they would have avoided if maybe they
had experienced a heart break. Am I saying you need to go through a heart break
to have a great marriage? The answer is NO! But I am saying you appreciate a
wonderful relationship more when you have been in a bad one. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><b><i>HOW DO YOU KNOW
YOU ARE IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP?</i></b><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
deep down inside you do not have peace of mind. This may be an indication that
this relationship is not for you. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
you have to keep wondering if the person loves you I believe you do not have a
great relationship. Love is backed up by actions, so if someone says they love
you but their actions say otherwise, please stop making excuses for them. If you
go ahead, you may have to manage for the rest of your life. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
there is no trust you are in trouble. If you do not trust this person, there is
no point proceeding with the relationship. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A good relationship
needs trust. </span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
you are always moving from one quarrel to another and there is hardly peace,
you are most likely in a toxic relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
you are with someone who is constantly telling lies, making excuses and does
not keep their word this may also be an indication that your relationship is
not that great. You cannot trust a liar, you cannot build with someone who is
always making excuses and someone who does not respect their own word is not
honorable. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
you are in a relationship where you are constantly being cheated on, lied to
and the culprit always promises to change but never does, you are in a bad
relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
you are being mentally and physically attacked you are in a bad relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
the relationship is not bringing out the best in you and challenging you to
grow, you are not in a good relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">If
the relationship separates you from your family, friends and loved ones who
have invested in you, you are most likely in a bad relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">10)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">And the last but most powerful point I would like to
add is if this so called relationship creates a partition between you and God
and constantly puts you in a position where you compromise and displease God you
are in a very bad relationship! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">I believe that
at one point or the other you have been on the receiving end or even the giving
end of a bad relationship. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Below are
some tips on how to get through a bad relationship and how to improve on one's self
after a bad relationship. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Everyone has
something to learn from a bad relationship if they take some time off to
evaluate things critically and stop blaming the other person for everything
that went wrong. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><b><i><br /></i></b></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; tab-stops: 304.3pt; text-indent: -18.0pt;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">You must remind yourself that rushing into another
relationship is pointless. Most times people do this just to show their ex's
that they are really hot and on high demand. But the honest truth is that if
you rush into a relationship without properly evaluating why the last one ended
and areas of your own character you need to work on, you are most likely going
to repeat your mistakes and you would be deprived of the wisdom you should get
from self-reflection. You really do not have to prove anything to your ex or to
the world. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Take some time to heal, reflect and grow. </span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Learn to enjoy being single again. Singleness is not a
crime. Use this time to rediscover yourself and do the things you love. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Do not dwell on the hurt, do not play sad music, do
not go online to read sad articles, fight to temptation to vent on social
media, do not stalk your ex's page, refuse to listen to those informants who
take it upon themselves to remind you that your ex now has a new partner, and
do not pretend not to be hurt. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Denial can become fatal. </span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Spend time with the word of God, spend time with good
and supportive friends, feel the vacuum created with good and healthy habits,
and do not run to someone else for comfort, it may lead to a relationship which
is not a good idea because you are still not really over your last
relationship.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">5)<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Evaluate your failed relationship; think critically on
the things you could not stand from that relationship. An example is my failed
engagement helped me realize I would not put up with a man who does not keep
his word or tells lies, I would not put up with someone who is financially
reckless, I would investigate properly by asking questions and observing
closely before giving my heart etc. A lot of people think they know what they
want but the truth is you never really know what you want till you know what
you absolutely do not want in a relationship. So if you take out time to ponder
on the things you could not stand that made you so angry in that bad
relationship, it would help you look out for those red lights in a potential
relationship. At this point you know the areas you cannot and would not compromise.
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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them. Shut the door and move forward, you cannot move forward if you keep
looking back to see what could have, should have or may be. Fight that voice in
your head that keeps saying you should go back and just manage because good
guys or girls are extinct, counter that voice by saying what if you go back and
miss out on the best person God has for you? Good men and women exist and God
is still in the business of show casing his own just like he did Eve. Trust me
I know that good and godly men exist because I asked God for the best and he
hooked me up. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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PILLOW TALKS WITH PRIZEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12487319593776824265noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3877806813767757730.post-66759884290066206772017-09-14T18:37:00.001-07:002017-09-14T18:37:41.959-07:00SILENT SEASONS<p dir="ltr">Do not despise silent seasons. You see just like we take tests and exams, that's the same way God places tests and exams in our lives. And we must pass these tests and exams to move to the next level. The higher the level, the more challenging the tests. </p>
<p dir="ltr">While I have learnt to be a diligent student, and have even studied on scholarship my entire life (more of God's grace than my efforts) I have also learnt that to fulfill God's plans we must also be diligent. You can not just keep wishing and hoping for things to happen. The book of proverbs tells us poverty will fall the lazy ones. To get to that level of extra ordinary, you must be willing to put in extra. To get to the level of outstanding, you must be ready to stand alone sometimes. You must be willing to do what others are not willing to do. </p>
<p dir="ltr">In the past, I used to detest silent seasons because it would be as though God has just abandoned me. But now I embrace silent seasons knowing that it will lead to the next level. Are you willing to put in the work? There must be diligence, persistence, and consistency. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Are you going through a silent season? Why don't you quit complaining and go to work. Remember that for every test or exam a person fails, they will have to repeat. Put in the extra, wake up to pray, study your Bible, read books, teach Sunday school, encourage and pray for others going through a hard time. Wake up and go to work early, work as unto to the lord, be diligent where you are at the moment. Stop waiting on God to give you a bigger opportunity while he is waiting to see if you have learnt to be faithful where you are. Put in the work and enjoy the benefits later. Remember quitting is not an option! Remember God is always with you even in the silent seasons. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Feel free to share this with a friend. And check out my other posts. Thank you))) </p>
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driving long distances and spending my whole Saturday at an amazing women's
conference. I did not make it for workers meeting in church which starts at
7:30am. I was ready but did not want to rush out. While taking my time
something was like just stay back and rest besides you spent the whole of
Saturday with God. But I remembered that I am a Sunday school teacher to the
teenagers. I imagined my teacher bailing on me without notice or any
explanation and I got up.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Arial Unicode MS","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">What is the reason for this story? Well many people
keep asking God for a bigger platform, for a better job, for a better country,
for a spouse, for wealth, man the list is endless. But God just looks down and
laughs. If you cannot sacrifice sleep to tend to your responsibilities, if you
are not faithful in little, If you are not faithful when no one is watching who
will give you more? Why should God give you more? WHY?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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media, then I ask myself if all these people really know God and love him who
are the people that are pushing corruption forward? Who are the people going
late to work? Who are the people that are so impatient while driving with the
church sticker behind their Vehicles?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Arial Unicode MS","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">I went to church and the other teacher was there but
that was not the point. The point is that, taking up my responsibility in my
little pariah is forcing me to grow. I do not want to be recorded absent when
God looks down. If I will not miss a lecture, then I will not make excuses when
it comes to my responsibilities to God.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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you are you faithful with the little God has entrusted to you? What fruits are
you bearing? What type of father are you? What will your wife say about you?
What will your children say about you? What type of wife, son, daughter,
friend, leader and follower are you? What does God say about you? You can
deceive the whole world, you can even deceive yourself, but you cannot deceive
God. He who is faithful in little will be given more. If God was to say
something about you and the people closest to you were to be honest about who
you truly are, what would they say? I know people who are just pretending on
social media. I used to do it a little in the past. But I realized that what
you want to show people is not as important as who you truly are.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Can your country count on you? Can your friends count on you? Go look in the
mirror and ask yourself if the person looking back is the best version of you?
If the answer is no make changes. Take your responsibilities seriously. You
cannot get the reward without the responsibility. You cannot take the prize
without running the race. Get up and do the right thing everyday and
everywhere. </span><span style="font-family: "Arial Unicode MS","sans-serif";">Have
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LADY! LOVE YOUR OWN COMPANY?<br />
So this is a topic I have always wanted to address and would love to get feed back from my lovely ladies. So I have always been independent and liked to try things out myself and at my own terms. But I noticed that a lot of girls like to move in cliques, and many always have to be in the company of other ladies. I have no problem with this at all o. But I am just wondering out loud about why it is so.<br />
While doing my under graduate studies in Russia, I noticed a trend, most of the girls liked to walk in two's and escort each other to the bathroom and do all of the girly stuff. Now in my opinion this is not bad oh, but I want to look into why a lot of ladies do that. While it is very okay to spend time with your girl friends and do all the girly things together, I also believe that in order to get to know yourself better, it is important to learn to enjoy your own company and develop yourself in moments of solitude. I constantly find myself having to apologize to fellow ladies because I am not so used to this whole tag along thing. If I want to go somewhere I just go, and if you are ready when I am, we can go together. Bla bla bla.<br />
I will share some of my experiences and how I am a more confident woman because I have learnt to enjoy my own company and I even get to work on my goals and dreams with time a lot of people waste on small talk and amebo up and down the place.<br />
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THINGS I HAVE LEARNT FROM ENJOYING MY OWN COMPANY!<br />
1) I was forced to look into what my purpose here on earth is. You are not here by accident and there is more to you than your physical attributes. You are a woman for a reason, and you need to develop a solid relationship with God to know what your purpose here on earth is. Unfortunately, many ladies are always so occupied with noise, gisting, and trivial things that they do not have time to dig deep into the reason for their existence. I like to call this the " MATTER SYNDROME" they have weight, and are just occupying space. This is not to make anyone feel bad oh, I just want to get you thinking and evaluating yourself. There is purpose in everything God created, even your beauty, gifts and talents are for a reason.<br />
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2) I was forced to have a mind of my own. Now we all know that men complain that women are indecisive. While this is mostly the case for many women, some people have learnt to be decisive because they are not always around people. When you go out by yourself without your bestie, you will have to pick a shoe by yourself, you will have to place the order yourself, you will learn to trust your own decisions and deal with the consequences. Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with being with friends. We all know how to do that, but in order to be independent, you have to learn to do certain things on your own.<br />
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3) I learnt to use my time wisely. We all know that time wasted can never be regained. I learnt at a very young age that when you waste time, you can never get it back. Time you spend on irrelevant things that add nothing to your life should be cut down reasonably. I love watching movies, but I have learnt to watch movies when I have the time for it. I go to gist when I can make time for it and I don't spend my whole day just talking and doing nothing productive. Honestly I even prefer to get good rest than wasting time talking about irrelevant topics that add nothing to my life. Or complaining about who hates me or likes me. These days I do not even notice such things because I have out grown getting affected by negative people. So enjoying your own company will help you learn to aportion time wisely and be productive. We all have 24 hours in a day and we all use it differently. How you use your time will determine how much you achieve.<br />
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4) Spending time with myself and enjoying my own company has taught me to mind my own business. Honestly jobless people are the ones who constantly have time to make other people's business their business. The truth is if you are busy doing something productive you will really not have time to meddle in other people's business. We have all experienced that one friend who always has gossip to spill and who is always busy analyzing people's lives and relationships on Facebook, and worrying about who said what about them. The truth is you need to force yourself to learn to mind your own business. And a good place to start is to be with yourself.<br />
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5) I have become more confident and more sure of myself. Spending time with myself and reflecting on my feelings and my life has forced me to get to know myself better. I know what I will absolutely not settle for, I have learnt to compliment myself and love myself to the most minute details about me. I know now that I really do not need to be anything other than myself and I have a responsibility to keep growing and learning to be the absolute best version of myself that God has called me to be, I wake up and I look in the mirror and see myself through the eyes of God. I remind myself that God created me perfectly so I absolutely do not need to be threteaned by the beauty or uniqueness of another lady. My eyes, my nose, my body and everything about me is unique. I do not need constant validation or compliments from people. When I get compliments I appreciate them, but I do not get cocky because I know where I get everything from, and that is God!<br />
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6) enjoying my own company has made me picky about who I spend time with. Honestly if you want to be friends with me or want me around you, you must also be someone who is purposeful and is not a time waster. I cannot stay 10 minutes in a room where all I am hearing is gossip, or omg did you see what she was wearing or that boy is super hot. I will rather sleep, read a book or spend time with God. I love to spend time with people who I can learn from, people who motivate me, and inspire me.<br />
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7) Spending time with myself has forced me to work on my weaknesses. Before people even tell me, I know of some of my flaws. And when I am notified of a new one, I go away and get to work trying to learn to be better. If you are always surrounded with people, you may not be able to reflect and check yourself. You should make time to talk to yourself and ask yourself what you really want to do with your life.<br />
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8) enjoying your own company will force you to learn to talk to God. Stop yourself from running to people sometimes and just talk to God about those problems. Then pick up your bible, read, pray and then listen and wait for a word from God.<br />
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9) Spending time with yourself helps you to work on your strengths and develop them. This ultimately makes you someone everyone wants to associate with because you have put in work to be useful and become a master in something.<br />
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10) Spending time with yourself helps you clear your mind from all the noise and clutter the world sometimes forces on you.<br />
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Enjoy your time with your friends, and family, but do not forget to learn to love your own company. And if you do not like to spend time with yourself, you need to find out why. Balance is the key here. I am not saying become so isolated and dis attached, but just learn to be by yourself and love it.<br />
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PILLOW TALKS WITH PRIZEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12487319593776824265noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3877806813767757730.post-82301742830457268892016-07-09T04:26:00.001-07:002016-07-09T04:26:13.375-07:00ROSE OF SHARON: TWO DECADES AND A HALFME AT 25So j...<a href="http://prizearowolo.blogspot.com/2016/07/two-decades-and-half-me-at-25-so.html?spref=bl">ROSE OF SHARON: TWO DECADES AND A HALFME AT 25So j...</a>: TWO DECADES AND A HALF ME AT 25 So just like that I am 25. Honestly it feels quite amazing and unbelievable at the s...PILLOW TALKS WITH PRIZEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12487319593776824265noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3877806813767757730.post-58575212754391243112016-07-09T04:23:00.000-07:002016-07-09T05:20:31.927-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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time. I am super blessed and grateful for so much. And God has absolutely blown
my mind away with his unending love and care towards me since I was a child. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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I was sort of stubborn and kind of all over the place, but even at that tender
age, God was never far away. I knew who he was but was not so sure what to do
with my relationship with him. So God was just this abstract person my parents
had told me about and who we are to pray to and ask for help and all of that.
Now you see life wasn’t always so perfect for me and my family, we have been
through some very serious tough times that you would never believe till we open
our mouths to tell you. So the first thing I discovered in my Christian walk
was prayer at a very tender age. I had to learn to tell God to provide school
fees, I had to pray for my parents, and I had to pray for provision. So prayer
was the first thing I learnt. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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boarding school and well that was when God began to shape and mold me into the
woman he wants me to be. Just like everyone else, I had my first serious crush
hehe. He was a serious catch back then oh, and it was me he liked out of all
the girls in the school. I sort of knew he liked me but trust a Lagos baby like
me to do small yanga. I liked him but I had to front a bit. I liked the fact
that he could sing, was super intelligent, and was pretty much my family
friend. So this was perfect. In mind head this would be my husband in the very
distant future and we would have a big house with lots of kids. Em don't blame
my small mind, I grew up with 5 siblings so it was always fun and drama. Little
did I know that life was not that simple. The devil was not only that black man
with two horns, he could sometimes manifest as that pretty girl who wants
nothing else but your man. Covers face and runs away. There were a lot of
things my little mind could not understand back then, like how can one want
what already belongs to someone else and why should you get confused as to what
you want because of distractions. From the sound of it, I am sure you have
already guessed it. I got my first heart break and I cried for one whole day
secretly on my bed. No one was worth seeing my tears and I discovered the magic
tool of malice. I smiled when everyone was there, but will not talk to him when
no one was there. This was my first lesson about making plans. We can picture
our lives and even tell God who should play certain roles but God knows best
and he knows that sometimes where you think will be the perfect bus stop, is
just a path leading to your destination. Through my first heart break, I learnt
that well life is not perfect all the time and people make mistakes. Wise
people learn and grow from their mistakes so never hold it agaist them forever.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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forward I still had a picture of how my life should go. I would get into the
university, acquire my law degree, I should be give or take 22 at this time,
and of course I will meet a nice man (tall, dark, handsome, God fearing, kind,
funny, just name it), who will be ready to marry me after NYSC. We will have
the cutest babies and live happily ever after, Hehe for my mind. If things had
gone according to my plan, the interesting stories I am about to tell you and
all the lessons and wisdom I have gotten through those situations will be
lacking. And I honestly would not have discovered my purpose. So please get
your popcorn and milk shake as I take you on a cruise to what led me to this
amazing time of my life. Keep in mind that I can laugh and talk about most of
it now, but some of it was really not funny when it happened. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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of high school with pretty awesome grades. But trust Naija to ruin my plans by
not admitting students into the school I applied to that year. I wondered how
it was my fault that they had a backlog of students and now I will have to be
at home for one whole year since Covenant University did not have a law
department at that time. This was a very sad time for me. I was so depressed
and angry. I would watch movies all night, sleep all morning and afternoon,
dash to the bathroom when I hear my mom’s car horn, and of course will not cook
or eat anything. My mom noticed how grumpy
I was and she gave me a pep talk. She did not scold me, she just reminded me
that I was not the first to stay at home for a year. Sharon my immediate elder
sister now of blessed memory also did not get in immediately for similar
reasons. But the difference is, she made the best use of her one year at home.
She was so instrumental in the church and at home that when she was going to
school, mom did not have to buy much, as people were moved to give this and
that because they wanted to key into the anointing in Sharon’s life for their
children. I mean pots, plates, and many other things were given to Sharon along
with lots of prayers and encouragement. I thought about my life and what I want
it to look like. I decided Sharon's story was the motivation I needed. The next
morning I was up and I became the chief cleaner, chief cook, chief toilet
cleaner and madam church. My own even
went beyond because Sharon was just involved with the teenagers in our little
parish in kubwa, but me I decided to join the teenage ministry not just in my
church but in the whole of Abuja. This was where I served happily and trusted God
for my own big miracle, since most of my high school friends were already in
school. I was also the dance instructor for the children’s church, and
assistant dance director at the regional teenage church. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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mom that I really had a desire to study abroad. I knew that it sounded selfish
with just one person in a federal university and the rest in private schools.
My parents were already working so hard to keep things together. And here I was
dreaming of schooling abroad. My mom did not scold me, she just told me let us
say a prayer of agreement. We said the prayer, and she told me to join her at
the church prayers from 12am till 1am. I accepted her offer happily. We are a
praying family. The pastor told us to bring our requests and drop them in the
offering basket before the alter. I brought my request and told God I wanted to
study abroad. My mom told my dad about it and he spoke to my aunt and told her
about my good result. I applied for a
scholarship and with the help of God and my lovely aunty who told us about the
scholarship and was super instrumental, I was given admission to go and study
law in faraway Russia. My mom began to get cold feet, and was worried if her 17
year old who had never travelled by herself in Nigeria could go all the way to
Russia. I told her not to worry so much, we prayed for this and now it is
finally here. University of Ilorin made it easy for me to leave as that year
they decided to give me admission but to study History. I made up my mind to go
to Russia and study law. Can you imagine those people history? When since I
could talk all I heard about was how I would be a great lawyer and I sort of
also knew that is what I would want to do. Anyway I got to Russia and I thought
it would be like all the nice American college movies I had seen. But I got the
shocker of my life. My hostel was not nice oh. And if you see the kind cold wey
catch person, asin no be here oh. To add pepper to injury, the room I was given
had a cracked window. So I pretty much stayed with my friend till I got a new
room. I was such a young girl who was well protected at home and was always in
a sanitized environment. Growing up as a pastor’s child, I had only seen
alcohol on tv and never been around anyone smoking a cigarette. But thanks to
my Russian experience, I was able to see life in a different way. I learnt that
people are different and not everyone shares your views on life. It is not your
job to judge anyone, but to encourage people lovingly to strive to be better. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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much about myself and about other people in Russia. I learnt that I was capable
of making big mistakes and small mistakes alike. Little did I know that this
was where God was going to break and remold me into the woman he wants me to
be. My dad gave me specific instructions. He told me that when I land in the
airport and my feet hit the floor, I should speak to the land. He told me what
I should say, and I wrote it down in a small jotter. I remember some of it and
at first I was shy because everyone else was taking pictures and talking to new
friends. I brought out my jotter and I was a little shy, but I began to speak
to the land, Russia you will favor me, I will accomplish my aim here, I am Gods
ambassador here in Russia, this land will not swallow or burry me, I will shine
forth as a light and be a salt. When my dad told me to say these things, it
felt like a joke. Little did I know that those declarations and prayers will be
what will be the foundation for my six years in Russia which to me is now my
second home. I was told how the people are racists and how Africans never
achieve much. But there was one guy who told me to shun all of that and focus
on my goals. Honestly it was really challenging having to learn a new language
and study law in a language I learnt for just six months. But with God’s help,
encouragement from my family and determination, I was able to scale through.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US"> I joined the local church where most of the
African students worshiped called Salvation Army. It was very different from
what I was accustomed to and was not as loud as our Pentecostal churches. At
this church I learnt about sanctification, I learnt about Gods love, I
practically learnt what it truly means to love God and serve him. Now all I
learnt happened through some really painful experiences which I am now grateful
for. In the first 6 months of my stay in Russia, I kept asking God why it was
Russia he sent me to, and he told me I was never specific with my request. I
told him I wanted to school abroad and he made it possible by granting me a
scholarship that many people wish for. From this point on, I became thankful
for the opportunity and decided to make the best use of it. I still believe
this scholarship was Gods way of rewarding me for that one year service in my
teenage church. </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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year my junior in school and we became friends. He would call me about the
youth ministry and invite me for the programs. I was totally indifferent about the
youth church before he came. But well I decided to attend it and see what it is
all about. We began to talk a lot and I told him to make sure he is not using
church to try to get close to me, he should just come as he really is. To cut
the very long story short, we began to like each other and well things
progressed. He was a nice young boy but was really not ready to lead. I was
also a nice young girl but I also had a lot to learn and unlearn about what a relationship
should really be. Maybe one day I will be able to talk freely about some of the
very painful lessons I learnt from this on and off relationship that even led
to an engagement in front of the whole church. I really did not want anything
loud but he wanted it so I just went with it. I knew deep down in me that he
could not lead me and the relationship was not even honoring God, but I stayed
in it because I did not want to deal with side talks, or people laughing at me.
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waking my dad up from sleep and crying so hard, he had to call my younger
sister who started crying when she heard me crying. My dad just let me cry and
when I got myself together, I did not even have to explain but he sort of just
knew what I was feeling. And he told me, prize you are a beautiful girl, God
will send someone else, and he will use all that you have been through to bless
many young girls and even women around the world. I felt better after talking
to my dad. But I began to think back and I realized that I made up this plans
and I wanted my life to go in the direction I wanted. I wanted to be engaged in
my third year and it happened. I wanted to be married by at least 22 or 23.
Thank God that did not happen. This heart break and some other experiences
thought me to throw my plans out the window and learn to start trusting God and
follow his lead. This was where I realized I had a lot to learn about
submission and what God even expects in a relationship or marriage. The ultimate purpose of anything is to bring
glory to God and that includes marriages, courtships, relationships, and
friendships. My first step in trusting God began with a question in my heart.
The question was, if God is all you ever have, will he be enough for you? If
you never have so much money, a husband, kids or the best job, will you still
stick with God? The honest truth is this question showed me my heart and how I
had been treating God in the past. God was someone I asked for things and not
really someone I loved back as much as he loved me. I still could not answer that
question sincerely but I made up my mind to love God back with all my strength.
And the more I loved God, the more I realized he is all I need and every other
thing is just an addition. I would tell God how I was feeling, I would talk to
him about my plans, spend time praying and studying the word. I left the choir
and was not involved in any church department, because I just wanted to
practice obedience to Gods word and grow deeper in love with him. Of course
people were talking and some even wondering why I had backslided but little did
they know that when I was even serving and active in so many departments, I was
drowning and crying out to God to save me. He tried many times to get me out of
that relationship but I kept going back to it, but what hit me was when I lost
my sister and I asked myself where will you end up if you died today. That gave
me the courage to walk away and not look back. Walking away was good, but the
type of loneliness that followed was super intense. I had to constantly fill
myself up with the word of God. And the good thing about the whole heart break
was it helped me realize what I want and what I will never settle for. All of a
sudden I understood my worth in Christ and that life is not meant to be endured
but enjoyed. You really do not have to manage a bad relationship, you really do
not have to stay and manage toxic friendships, and there is so much freedom and
joy on the other side of your obedience and trust in God. </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Being
single again was so liberating, I remember telling God how I sort of missed
going out on dates. And that gentle voice inside of me said well I have been
waiting for you to give me a chance to date you and show you what real love
looks like. And I was really confused, I asked God, how do you want to date me,
and that voice said, prize dress up really nicely, look really good, dress up
for me, go to a nice restaurant, and eat and spend time with the word which you
like to read on your Ipad. I got up, freshened up, looked super-HOT and told my
bestie I was going on a date. She looked at me and asked with whom? And I told
her with a secrete admirer lol. I went out to my favorite spot, had the best
meal and just thought of how good God has been. And I realized how much God
loves me and cares about the tiniest details of my life. And after that
experience and a taste of the love of God, I told God if he was all I ever had,
he would be all I ever need. And if he ever decided to give me someone who
would love me, I wanted someone who would protect my crown and lead me closer
to God and not farther away from him. Believe me after I got to the point of
God being all I ever need, the blessings just kept rolling in. I was crowned
the first ever Miss Nigeria in Russia, I graduated with my bachelors and
masters degrees, and so many more blessings I am not going to talk about just
yet. Am I saying tough times don't come, absolutely not! But when they come I
hold on to God and I remember he loves me dearly and tough times will pass,
tough times are really not to punish us but to grow us and maybe move us
directly into Gods purpose for us if we have stepped out of it.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US">I am 25 and
super thankful for how everything in my life has played out till this point. I
have learnt to place Gods plans ahead of mine and trust his will because he
knows what is best for me. He knows where I will be years from now, he knows
who I will marry, he knows where I will work, he knows who should be in my life
and who should not, he knows every little thing about me and my job is to trust
him and follow his lead. Now the reason for this post is to remind you to trust
God. Don't compare your life to other people. Life is not a competition. You
see that your age mate, who is already married with kids, does not mean you are
a failure or that you are late. It just means that God has a different plan for
you. The fact that some of your friends are already working and you are in
school does not mean you are late or a failure it just means God is taking you
through a different route. You look small when you place yourself side by side
with other people, or you end up with pride feeling that you are better or have
achieved more than others. Our ultimate purpose in life should be to fulfill
Gods plans and purpose for our lives. So I am happily unmarried, happily still
in school, happily walking in line with Gods purpose for my life, happily happy
that God interrupted my plans and is constantly leading and teaching me. I am
25 years old and grateful for all the moments that led me here, the good
moments and not so good moments. I am celebrating my life and the goodness of
God in my life. </span>Cheers to living life Gods way!</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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I have always been the type to plan everything out and hope everything works out the way I planned. I never liked surprises except its very pleasant/ But even at that, I preferred to know what would happen and how things will turn out. But unfortunately, the human mind is too small to know what lies ahead. Hence the need to trust in a more supreme and all knowing being (GOD).<br />
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The honest truth is trusting God is not as easy as claiming and saying we trust him. Especially when it seems like he is not answering a prayer, or giving us the miracle we are so desperate for. I got to a point in 2013 where I had absolutely no trust in God. My sister was battling with cancer and all our prayers, fasting, begging and pleading seemed not to yield any results. I kept thinking maybe we were being punished. I had never seen someone go through so much pain. I cried a lot, I could not sleep, and whenever I got a call from home I went into panic mode cause I had lost my trust in God and in the process I lost my peace of mind. My mind became an open ground for the enemy. Fear, worry and depression took over. I was not even able to go to church any more because to me God could not do anything about the situation. But I was actually wrong.<br />
I really did not know that as christian's, we will go through trials. I just felt that God was meant to give us what we want when we ask. Especially if we are trying our very best to live lives pleasing to him. But when I got home my sisters faith in God opened my eyes. She was still serving God through the pain. And then I wondered why I was so mad at God when my health was still intact. I realized I had been loving God for what I could get from him and for what he could do for me and my family. But my sister was loving God simply because he is God. She was loving him even while her organs were shutting down. Watching her made me realize that trusting God is something we choose to do. And trials are a test of ones faith and trust in God. Sometimes we may not understand God's decision, but we have to keep trusting him.<br />
I looked closely at the life and Jesus and I realized that even He was not without trials. And just like the rest of us he asked God to let the cup pass over him, but if it wont then let Gods will be done. Trials really do make you stronger if you continue to trust in God. A friend of mine told me something, he said prize we live life forward and understand it backwards, The truth is if God allowed us know everything, there will be no need to trust him. And we will not want to go through trials which will actually help us grow, When you loose a loved one, you appreciate the gift of life better, When you fall sick and recover, you become thankful for health, When you have failed many times and you eventually succeed, your are more appreciative. When you have been so broke, you appreciate having plenty. The truth is as children of God, we will go through trials, and if we stay in line with God, he will be our peace in the storm and help us come out strong. All the great people mentioned in the bible went through one sort of trial or the other, The one that stands out or the most popular one is the story of job. Even after he lost every thing he had, he still had his trust in God and God was very proud of him. But that's not the high light of that story for me, the high light is that God actually trusted Job also and could brag about him. God knew that no matter what Job would go through, his love and trust in him will remain.<br />
So my conclusion is that when our love for God is solely based on what he has to offer us, our trust will easily be shaken. But when our love for God becomes unconditional, we will trust him when we get what we want and when we don't/ We will trust him simply because He is God. </div>
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<b><i><span style="color: blue;">CHRONICLES OF A PASTOR'S KID. TRUTH AND TRANSPARENCY. </span></i></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>Being a preacher's kid was really stressful for me growing up. I did not like it at all because people just seemed to expect perfection from us. Like omg you have a boyfriend? Oh wow you spoke to someone during a test? So you want to dance and shake your butt at social night and you are a pastors kid. It felt like one could not be themselves, And you had to create this fake personality to match what people expected you to look like. And no matter how hard you tried, it just wasn't good enough. </i></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>I remember being sort of a tom boy. I am still sort of tom boyish in some ways. But it was more comfortable to wear trousers. And I remember my mum saying no you should not wear it you are a pastors child and other people look up to you. I hated it with all of my energy. I had to hide to listen to circular songs, its like it was totally not okay to be yourself. Now of course my parents began to learn as time went on that we needed to grow into real and honest kids so they changed their approach to things :) . But somewhere in my foundation, just because people were always expecting perfection from me, I began to feel like I had to be this little perfect princess. What was even worse is I had an immediate elder sister (sharon rip) who fit more naturally into the whole preachers kid image. And I would get compared to her a lot. The funny part though is those expecting perfection from you and placing such high demands on you are not even willing to live up to such standards. They expect you to do it just because you are the pastors kid. Their own kids could be doing a lot and getting away with it, but some how the pastors kids should be robots without feelings who just automatically have no sinful nature and should be perfect little angels who are not allowed to make mistakes like everyone else. God forbid that you use a curse word or loose your temper. bla bla bla. </i></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>At the times when people my age were doing certain things, I would have to hide myself while doing it, and pretend I did not want to try it. My love for God was not genuine it was like a law forced down my throat. I remember being the choir leader in high school and some girl said wow you look like you would marry a pastor and right there I said never!! It's bad enough that I have to keep hiding, and have to keep faking perfection, then you want me to marry a pastor and become the mama of the church and be condemned to more judgement and not be free to grow at my own pace. I was like no never! And just because I had grown accustomed to people expecting me to know better or act better, every time I made a mistake, I would hide it. I actually began to feel like it is my responsibility to be perfect And the burden of constantly keeping my reality hidden was really eating me up. I was tired of having to act perfect, like I come from a perfect little sanctified family and like I had no struggles. I got to a point in my walk with God where I had to first of all be honest with God and stop all the acting. I realized God knew me better than anyone else did. And his love for me was unconditional. I remember crying so much in my room when I realized God loves me no matter what. Even when I made mistakes, and everyone was acting like I had killed Jesus christ the second time. And just understanding Gods love helped me to be honest with God. I would tell God exactly how I was feeling about a certain thing. And will even report myself whenever I messed up. Being honest with God helped me to be honest with myself, and gradually I was honest about my reality. I was no longer bound by the fear of how people will see me, or what they would say about me. I wanted my walk with God to be real every step of the way. If I was struggling like every one else, I will admit it, if I was falling I would admit it. </i></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>I was done playing church. You know sometimes as Christians, we turn into actors and are not real with ourselves. We lie about who we really are. We are sometimes so critical and judgmental and expect perfection from people. But the truth is if we all attain perfection, we will have no need for God. At every stage and every point in our lives and our walk with God, there is always going to be more to learn, and more room for growth. So it is absolutely wrong to expect everyone to grow at the same pace, and to think you have the right to direct the course of another persons life. To do that you will need to get your license by dying on a cross. The truth is while you are busy trying to pretend and act like you are so born again, it is so much better to acknowledge that you are not. And that is okay because we have God's grace. It is not okay to stay comfortable in a lie. It is not okay to stay comfortable in sin. But one has to get over the self righteous high horse they are on and realize that Gods opinion of them is what really counts. God is the one you should be trying to please, he is the only one who you should fear. We live in a world where people prefer the pretentious version of you not the true you. which means a lie is now more appealing than the truth, and the bible says the truth is what will set you free. Jesus is the way, the TRUTH and the life. We need to get back to a place of truth and transparency. John 14;6. To deal with God, you have to come truthfully not with a mask. </i></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>Now when I feel like I am not perfect, I remind myself that God is taking me through a process. He can change me up in a second but what good would that be if I don't go through the process, and learn the lessons? The fruits of Gods spirit needs to develop in me cause I have a sinful nature just like everyone else. And it will take a lot of work, faith and grace to get me there. At the end of the day, we are all just imperfect people working towards perfection. </i></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>Dear God I thought the only way you could use me was if I did everything right, thank you for showing me that my brokenness gave you more to use, not less. I spent so long trying to reject what you were trying to bless, I welcome every battle, and invite every struggle. I know when its over, you'l use every scare I learnt to love. ( Sarah Jakes) </i></span></b><br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhI-gook1fsdygETxR7zMI2whogI1bzXvqiO2BqadyYYd8hEGcjHWrLJT9DMVaBlAIi0b7IOHUqqhMvICM7c0T2bSky4Xz_s2DnO5c6RUvrkMynXs1SgJZh2oMvFmcp6nkQU9UVfZY1YbxK/s1600/DSC_1302.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhI-gook1fsdygETxR7zMI2whogI1bzXvqiO2BqadyYYd8hEGcjHWrLJT9DMVaBlAIi0b7IOHUqqhMvICM7c0T2bSky4Xz_s2DnO5c6RUvrkMynXs1SgJZh2oMvFmcp6nkQU9UVfZY1YbxK/s320/DSC_1302.jpg" width="213" /></i></span></a><b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>Dear God I understand that there may be pain in the process, but that pain will lead to ultimate progress and while you navigate through the waters of pain and progress, you will discover your purpose. So I thank you for the process that has gotten me to this point,I thank you for the progress and I thank you for showing me how your grace constantly carries me through. Signed (princess prize.)</i></span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-style: italic;"> </span></b></div>
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As a young lady in our time, if you do not take time to develop a relationship with God, you will just be like everyone else. Putting so much focus on things that would not last no matter how many plastic surgeries one gets. If you do not look deep to discover all that God has placed inside of you. you will be so focused on your outward look, and who is trying to look better than you. Your life is a lot more than just a pretty face and lovely figure. But there is a beauty inside that is ageless and only gets better with time and you need to be connected to God to access it. So stop taking your ques from the world, this world is not going to last for ever. Invest in eternal things. With that said there is nothing wrong with looking good. Take it seriously, but also make sure you take your inward growth and improvement seriously. I always used to wonder why some older women and just women in general go through so much stress, and plastic surgeries to change how they look, or try to cheat nature. One answer came to my mind one day when I was busy worrying about getting older.<br />
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You see what you invest in becomes of more value to you. So if outward beauty is the only thing you ever discover about yourself, if it is what you solely rely on, if you spend so much time getting dressed to be admired on the outside but not really for what is inside, when that beauty begins to fade, or a younger woman emerges with young beauty, you will be threatened and do just about any thing to hold on to your looks because that is the only thing you invested in. At first I wondered why women would want bigger, butts, boobs and spend so much on make up. But now I understand. Yes exercise, and do what you can to look good, but do not limit your beauty to how you look on the outside or what the world says is the standard for beauty. Create your own world and make the rules!! Do not measure how beautiful you are or compare yourself to another woman. Is that not the reason we have people cutting themselves up thinking a bigger butt or boobs will make them happier. You should admire Gods beauty and even compliment it, but you should be content. When I look in the mirror I see God's perfection. Even when my mind wants to tell me I am not good enough, or my make up is not on fleek enough, I remind myself that these things are someones standard of what beauty is but I choose a higher standard. And by that standard I am perfect. So on the days when I have makeup on and the days I don't, I know I am beautiful. On the days I get complimented and the days I don't I know I am beautiful. If kim decides to break the internet or if she doesn;t I know I am beautiful. If I cant afford a mac I wont kill myself to get it because, I know I am beautiful with or without it.<br />
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If you create a balance, where you are working on your inner beauty as well as your character, your discipline and self control, your talents, your social skills, your spiritual growth and maturity, your self worth and so much more, you will be doing yourself a favor. You see every woman has a unique type of outward beauty, but there a few who look even more beautiful outwardly because their inner beauty shines forth from the inside as well. What is the point of a pretty face, when your character is ugly? When you have a sharp and rude tongue? God has deposited so much in you to only stay focused on just your outward container. You need to make sure that the content in your container is of good quality and that you keep improving like fine wine. Beauty is in different stages, my mum looks older now but she is more beautiful to me now than I ever remember, And I pray one day someone can look beyond my appearance and say you are beautiful. Do not be afraid of the stages, grow and learn and be happy you get to experience a new stage.<br />
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When you attain a certain level of maturity and wisdom, you wont see other women as competition, you will appreciate the differences in your body structures, and embrace what you consider flaws.. Yes what you consider flaws because God thinks you are perfect and to die for, that's why we have the cross to remind us. Oh yes I love to look good, but I always remind myself that looking good goes beyond how I look on the outside. And compliments do not define me and neither does negativity. I get my validation from the word of God. I am fearfully and wonderfully made and so are you. And please do not be so careless with how you look on the outside. That s why I spoke about a balance. Look neat, put your hair together properly, Apply make up if you choose to, let everything be done decently and moderately<br />
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What do you have apart from your outward beauty? Has your inner beauty improved? Be more than just a pretty face!! PEOPLE WHO SHINE FROM WITHIN DONT NEED THE SPOT LIGHT, THEY ARE THE SPOT LIGHT!! SHINE SHINE SHINE!!<br />
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<span lang="EN-US"> A lot of people carry the title
"CHRISTIAN" But are not willing enough to bear the burden of what it
really truly means to be "CHRIST LIKE". I have noticed that most
times, people will rather just have the title and leave the work that follows
alone because it takes so much to really be like Christ, especially in the
sinful world we live in today. So many people live double lives. They go to
church, listen to what the preacher says, and then they leave church saying the
spirit is willing but the flesh is weak, may God have mercy and may his grace
cover us. They choose to be lazy over working hard to die to their flesh.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> People hide their flaws and struggles
for the fear of being judged. No one wants to admit that they are battling with
pornography, no one wants to admit that they have fallen into fornication, no
one wants to admit that they struggling with lust. No one testifies about God
delivering them from masturbation, no one says God saved me from a bad
relationship that was leading me straight to hell. Everyone comes around with a
mask hiding who they really are. Too proud to admit that they need help, too
scared to talk about their sinful nature for fear of being judged, too weak to
fight the battle alone, too broken to try to pick up the pieces. The preacher
is not telling them how to deal with the evil going on in their hearts. How can
I win this battle over my sinful nature? The shackles of sin seem stronger than
the power of God to deliver, so they stay silent. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> They put on their masks and quietly
live a double life. We smile, we worship, we testify about things that have no
deep meaning. While deep down we are crying SOMEBODY PLEASE SAVE ME!!! I CANNOT
DO THIS ON MY OWN!! People are so weak
they would rather sit comfortably in sin than fight. It is easier to put up a
front as blessed and sanctified than to open up and say I am a sinner I need
your help lord. You need to SAVE ME FROM MY</span><span lang="EN-US"> </span><span lang="EN-US">SELF. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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wanted to be the best girl God wants me to be. And just like many of you I
stumbled to the point where I was broken. I thought I would never climb out. I
thought I would never be able to win. But unlike many of you, I never stopped
crying out to God. One day while reading my bible, I stumbled upon the phrase
"THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE". God already knew I was a sinner, he
already knew my struggles, he knew my flaws, he knew I would mess up. But
instead of being honest with God, myself and the people around me, I was
putting up a front. I was too ashamed to let them see the real me, I was too
afraid to disappoint those who felt I was so spiritual I would never fall into
sin or make mistakes like many other people. I was too scared to cry out for
help. But here I was in my room reporting myself to God again, asking for forgiveness
again, being sick and tired of being sick and tired. I cried out Lord!!! SAVE
ME FROM MYSELF!!! DRAG ME IF YOU NEED TO BUT DO NOT LET ME DIE IN SIN!! And
those words rang in my head THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE. It was the most
difficult thing for me to do, to stand in front of the whole church and tell
them I was struggling with porn but God will deliver me and anyone else who is
struggling. After the words came out, I was like prize why the heck did you
just say that, but I needed to say the truth. It did not matter who would look
down on me, who would think I am no longer born again, who would point fingers
at me. I needed my Freedom and the TRUTH, was the first step to getting it. I
told my friend my struggle and where I needed help to get out of my sinful and
dysfunctional relationship. I needed to breathe again. I left the choir because
I realized God was more interested in my OBEDIENCE THAN MY SACRIFICE. I was
looked at funny for leaving the choir. I felt I was mocking God with my double
life. And it was time for me to be set free. My pride was not going to get in
the way, my fears and worries were not going to get in the way, my feelings and
my flesh were not going to get in the way. People’s opinions were also not
going to hold me back. It was time for me to be set free!!! Thank God for bold Christian’s
like Heather Lindsey who put out their stories and testimonies! Real
testimonies of the struggles of the average youths. Struggles of a sinner like
me and you. People who are speaking the truth without sugar coating it. Or just
spelling out rules and regulations without telling us that they struggled too
or how they struggled. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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smooth process, but it was absolutely not!! I felt God dragging me and beating
me up because I asked him to do that if that was what I needed to get out of
sin. I had to fight everyday with all I had. I had to give up a lot of
friendships that were affecting my walk with God, I had to fight every day. I
still fight every day. I had to get to a point where I loved God more than I
loved my sin. I got to a point where I really understood how my sins made God
feel. I had to understand that in as much as God is a loving and forgiving God,
He is a consuming fire who should be feared and reverenced. God worked on me
and I was also willing and still willing to put in the work. I wake up ready to
fight my flesh daily. It does not matter who thinks you are blessed and
sanctified. To men you may be the anointed man or woman of God with a title,
but God see's what no one else can see. You may succeed in deceiving your
church, your family, and even yourself, but you can never deceive God!! Like me
many of you need to take off those masks!! Now!! Cause tomorrow is not
promised! You cannot afford to die in your sin!! I have been wanting to do a
write up on purity but this has been on my heart. I felt God needed me to put
this story out even if it’s so hard for me to. But I know God knows that this
would touch the girl, or the boy who thinks purity is impossible. I made all these silly mistakes, but it’s not
about how hard I fell, it’s about how hard I was willing to fight, to get back
up. I refused to stay beaten down and defeated. So before I even attempt to
tell you purity is possible, I need you to know that I understand the shackles
can be broken. But you must cry out in truth to be set free!! And you must be
so desperate to die to your flesh. With God it is possible. You will not even
understand the amount of peace and joy and God's unending blessings I have been
experiencing since I decided to die to my flesh. I am a work in progress
claiming my victory every day. YOU NEED TO DECIDE IF YOU ARE READY TO TAKE OF
THAT MASK!! AND YES THE TRUTH DID SET ME FREE!!
AND IT WILL ALSO SET YOU FREE!! Feel free to leave comments and
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SWEET MELODIES!!</h2>
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have given way to new rays of sun shine. </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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day brings new smiles and reasons to laugh. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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you bring sweet melodies to my heart.</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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dance to the rhythm of these new found melodies. </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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bringing me closer to you, Close enough to see my heart.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">With you
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<span lang="EN-US">Just because
God decided to bless me with the amazing gift which is you. </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">With you
life is a beautiful picture, framed perfectly.</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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grateful for today because I have you in it<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> Cheers to Godly friendships that last.</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> <b><i><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"> BEAUTY IS WHAT I SEE WHEN
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<span lang="EN-US">It is
common knowledge that girls are under a lot of pressure to look a certain way,
or dress a certain way to look and feel like they are beautiful. I have never
really fallen into this trap, but I have seen a lot of my friends and
acquaintances fall into this trap. Where they feel they are not slim enough,
are not tall enough, are not light enough, and are not good enough. No one can make you feel a certain way
without your permission. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">The painful
part is the media makes this worse by portraying a certain type of image to be
the ultimate example of what beauty really is. And if you fall short of that,
well you have to work hard to become that image. The most amazing part is this
image changes with time. And you find people constantly changing themselves to
fit into what that image should look like. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">When it
comes to beauty, I believe we have different unique shapes and flavors. But the
huge problem is, most ladies look at themselves from the outside- in instead of
looking from the inside-out. What do I mean by this? Let me explain it to you.
Your outward appearance is just one segment or one part of what makes you
beautiful. And if you focus only on that, while neglecting the inner beauty,
and your character and many other traits you should work on such as your
confidence, you will always find yourself trying to do more to keep the outward
beauty. The most disappointing part of
it is the outward beauty is the one that fades away the fastest with time and
age. And that is why you find women who
are so desperate to cheat nature because all they ever really invested in was
the outward beauty. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Now inward
beauty is also as important as the outward beauty but not so many people know
this. The truth is, if you have a bunch of insecurities on your inside, low
self-esteem, anger, jealousy, pride, malice, and unhealthy competition, no
amount of outward make up or work out will cover that up. It will find its way
out. If you are not satisfied with yourself on the inside, you won’t be
satisfied on the outside. You will always be in search of more. I have come
across so many ladies who are intimidated by the shade and color of another
woman’s beauty. And the reason for this is because they have not gone inside to
discover all the different shades of beauty God has deposited in them. They are
just focused on what beauty looks like on the outside. Insecurity is born out
of selfishness. It is a force that wishes it has more of what has been given to
someone else by God. You find people insecure about their legs, their hair, their
eyes, their size, their color and a lot more. But the truth is if they could
focus their energy on the things that are going well for them, like the fact
that they have two legs, their skin type is okay, their hair is available and
not falling out because of cancer or some other ailment they would realize how
beautiful they are. And how grateful
they should be for their portion instead of trying to be or look like someone
else. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Another
problem is people listen to other peoples voices. And lose their voice in the
process. Oh you are too fat, you are too slim, and why is your hair like this?
And before you know it you allow these voices drown you. You try to get
validation from the media, from a boyfriend, from your family. And when you
don't hear them tell you what you want to hear, you feel you have to do more,
get slimmer, apply a little more makeup and all of that. But the safest place
to get validation is from God. He says you are fearfully and wonderfully
made. He crafted you out perfectly and did
not make a mistake. Every time you complain it is like telling God he made a
mistake when he created you. There is nothing wrong with trying to look good.
If you feel you gained a lot of weight, lose the weight but love yourself in
all your forms. Today you are young and beautiful, tomorrow you will be old and
gray. Will you throw your old self away? I spend time in front of my mirror to always
remind myself that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. My voice is perfect, my
height is perfect, my personality is unique, and my color is perfect. And the
days when I don't feel like it, I am reminded that God loves me the way I
am. So yes beauty is what I see when I
see me, and it is what I see when I see you. Compliment yourself and focus on
the positive parts of your life. Work on your weaknesses and let your beauty be
to the glory of God. Both on the inside and on the outside. Your outward beauty is just the cover to the
amazing things God has deposited on your inside. Reach down deep inside of you
and unleash your inner beauty. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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couple of rough times last year and the first half of this year. My family had
to go through the painful ordeal of watching our sister Sharon, battle cancer
for four years straight. During this period my faith in God wavered. I could
not understand how a God who they say is loving will let such a kind hearted
girl go through that type of pain. And the most frustrating part is there was nothing
we could do to take it away. We prayed, fasted, and spent a lot of money on
treatments but it just kept getting worse. It was so difficult to have fun with
friends or fully concentrate in school when I knew my sister was in pain
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I was so down and this very strong depression came over
me. I refused to go to school for my exams, I could not go to church either. I
was so angry with God. We were born and raised in a pastors home, and all our
lives, we have tried to please God. Yet he keeps letting us go through the
fire. So I resolved in my heart that I was done with this whole God thing. I
decided to go home for summer in order to help my mum get a little rest while I
take care of my sister. To my greatest surprise, her faith in God did not
waver. She was still strong and fervent in the lord. And that was when God
began to work on my heart again. I did not believe in miracles anymore and I
told Sharon that. She replied by letting me know all is well. And when I said a
prayer that night, I was reminded that waking up every day is a miracle. Being
able to do little things like eat, drink, use the toilet without pain is a gift
and a miracle. Sharon's faith in God woke me up and reminded me to trust God in
good and in bad times. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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I returned to school better and stronger in the lord. And in July
I received a call from my dad. My friend and I were listening to him on speaker
phone. He said a prayer and from the way he prayed I could tell my sister had
gone to be with the lord. He eventually broke the news to me, and for hours I
could not cry it felt unreal. I thought I was prepared for this but nothing
ever prepares you to lose a loved one. I eventually cried and could not stop
crying. It was one of the most painful things I have experienced in my life.
But it was also the period when God began to clean me up and help me up again.
It was such a painful process losing my sister and a lot of other things I
cherished all at the same time. And all I could hear from God was trust me. He
would lead me to scriptures each day that would give me comfort, and I would
share them with my family members and friends on Facebook. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Finally I began to learn how to smile again, but God was not done.
I felt like God was testing me and making me give up things for his sake that I
wanted to keep. But truly when God wants to give you a fresh start, he has to
clear out all the cluster and pain from your heart. He has to take you through
the fire to prepare you for the task ahead. I spoke about my sister because we
both had a dream when we were kids to point girls and women to God with all the
gifts he had given us. And finally God has given me a platform. I emerged the
winner of the just concluded Miss Nigeria in Russia beauty pageant and I know
God was totally behind me. He gave me so much favor, touched the hearts of my
friends to help me in ways I can't even repay them. He even made strangers
support me. It has been a huge blessing so far and I feel humbled. Why did I
narrate this long story someone may ask? Well the reason is this. I know
someone is out there who feels like God has shut the door on you, and
everything is just going wrong. But the truth is God is with you in all of it.
He never leaves nor forsakes his own. Keep trusting the lord and let God know
that you love him and will always have faith in his plan even when you don't
understand it. Someone once said «A bad day does not really mean a bad week, a
bad week does not really mean a bad month, a bad month does not really mean a
bad year, and a bad year does not really mean a bad life». So keep holding on
to God and do not give up on yourself and your dream. God will bring it to
pass. Sometimes God brings your purpose
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HEAVEN GAINED AN ANGEL TODAY!!<br />
This is going to be one of the most painful and difficult pieces to write because heaven gained an angel today. Sharon praise arowolo. It is so difficult to write about someone who means the world to you in past tense because they are no longer here with us. But our consolation is we know she is with the lord and the angels smiling down on us as she always did while she was here.<br />
My sister, my mentor, and my friend has joined the angels. She loved like Jesus did, was diligent in all she did, from her studies to her responsibilities. A lot of tears but I have to remind myself that she belonged to Jesus before he sent her down to be a blessing to our family. And he has decided to call her home to glory and eternal rest. I am proud and priviledged to have been a part of her journey because in the end, we are all passers by. This is not our destination but a temporary home. I have so many blessed and precious memories of her, but what I loved most about her was she always looked like jesus in all she did.<br />
Wipe away your tears because sharon won in the end. She is free from pain, from sickness, from sleepless nights, and from sorrow. Her spirit is alive in the lord and she is singing with the angels. I know exactly what she would want me to say on such a day as this. And that would be to remind us that in the short time we will be on earth, we must live our lives to please and glorify God, love and forgive. I don't want to accept it, but in the end we have to trust Gods plan. Sharon is and will always be in our hearts, our prayers, and our minds. She lives on through all the lives God allowed her to affect during her stay here on earth.<br />
Sharon praise bolafetioluwa Arowolo. You will be missed. And till we meet to part no more. We love you dearly and thank you for being a blessing and an angel through out your stay with us. You fought your battle with grace and constant faith. You loved God through it all and never complained. We say welldone. You showed us all a good way to live. We thank God for the gift of you. This is not goodbye. It's till we meet again at Jesus feet. I love you.<br />
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